Exercise: Three Fingers

Before you begin this exercise, write down the six qualities you identified in part a) of Exploring The Inner Family exercise:

Whenever your Primary selves have you point the finger of blame, judgement or condemnation at someone, there are three fingers pointing back to you! The attributes your Primary selves find so unacceptable in others are really just disowned parts of your own psyche. 

To get a visceral sense of how unacceptable your Disowned selves are to your Primary selves, read the above list aloud, prefacing each ‘quality’ with the words “I am”, and imagining that you are addressing a room full of people. Describe how it feels to read each one out loud including whether you notice any resistance or physical sensations – such as a tightness in your stomach or throat, or any changes in the tone or volume of your voice.